***UPDATE***
Another featured post on the front-page of BrazenCareerist.com
My 3rd time in under a month - yeah me! Here's the direct link.
Ever wonder what it’s like to date yourself? I’m guessing you are shaking your head no because most people don’t have these odd, deep thoughts that I do from time to time. But if you’ve never wondered what it’s like to date yourself, perhaps today is the day you should give it some thought! Because if you wouldn’t want to date yourself, chances are nobody else does either. So with that said, it’s important that you possess some attractive qualities that...well, attract the opposite sex obviously. Or for some, attract the same sex. The point is, whether you are gay or straight, just make sure you can tolerate yourself or nobody else will be able to tolerate you either. Of course nobody is perfect so just like you shouldn’t look for the ideal date or the ideal companion, you shouldn’t place unnecessary and unrealistic pressures on yourself to be the ideal date or companion either.
Wondering what it’s like to date oneself...
I think my question would make Carrie Bradshaw proud.
This isn’t a soap opera. This is real life. And I have a secret for you, so come close. Psst, that guy that’s dreamy on TV, in the movies and in your cheesy romance novels, he doesn’t exist. He’s totally fake, the product of someone’s well scripted imagination. In reality, he’s probably just some dopy meathead that can’t complete a sentence without grunting and overusing the word dude. The harsh reality is that Mr. or Miss Perfect doesn’t exist in this world. Although, Mr. Perfect "FOR YOU" or Miss Perfect "FOR YOU" does exist! Simply put, the perfect guy or girl isn’t out there. But I can assure you that there is someone who is perfect for you, a perfect fit! They say there is someone for everyone. And for the sake of a feel-good post, let’s just say that’s true.
If you were asked to put together a brochure on how-to date yourself, could you do it? Could you do so in a fair and objective manner? Could you include the cons to your personality, just as you could the pros? Could you give specific keys to your heart – how to win it, how to lose it? What picks you up and what puts you off? How well do you know yourself sexually, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually? These are all aspects that come into play when dating. You need to know yourself, your true self, and not just know the person who you would like to be. If you don’t know yourself well enough to put together that brochure, then perhaps it’s time to discover yourself. Often the best way to do that is thru others and who knows you better than those you date? I can say with much certainty that a woman will always know me better than a man. Around my buddies, I’m just one of the guys. But around a girl, somehow I’m able to tap into my softer/sensitive side. Women just seem to always have the ability to bring that out of me naturally and comfortably. With a girl, I don’t have a problem opening up. With another dude, I rather we go play some hoops and check all that touchy/feely stuff at the door.
Since it never hurts to get to know yourself a little better, I’ve put together my "how-to date me" brochure. Ok, I cheated just a bit because what you will read below was not written by me. It was written in the stars! Stop giggling. I’m being serious. It’s part of an astrology profile on my sign, Scorpio. I’ve always half-believed in all that horoscope stuff. I think a daily horoscope is more for entertainment purposes. Although I think there has to be a good amount of truth in what sign you were born under. At least for my sign, the Scorpio characteristics fit me to a tee! And since the below profile tips on how to date a Scorpio man are so on point and I couldn’t have said it better myself, I’m using it as my brochure. So if you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to date me or any other Scorpio man, wonder no more.
How-To Date Me, The Virtual Brochure
So what is it like to date a Scorpio man, to date me? Well according to one source, they claim..."The Scorpio male is unlike any other man of any other astrology sign. He is so unique that a separate section is needed to explain about dating the Scorpio man." I don’t know if I should revel in the fact that I’m so unique or be scared that I’m so complex that an entire extra page is needed just to describe how to date me! These online dating tips about Scorpio men are a woman's secret peek into his mind, which boils down to a secret peek into my mind!
Scorpio men are the most misunderstood and mysterious men of the zodiac. Every woman should date a Scorpio man at one point in their lives because dating Scorpio men is a relationship full of intensity, passion and you definitely won't forget your Scorpio man! The Scorpio man presents a strong masculine, sexual force. The Scorpio man is easy to seduce and take home for the night, it is much harder to form a real relationship with him (cough:manwhore:cough). The Scorpio man is very sensitive and feels lonely and unfulfilled, but he will never let a woman know this. Behind closed doors, be sensitive and affectionate to him. Appeal to his emotions only if you want a close relationship with him. Do not attempt to lead him on because he will see this and never forgive you. Toying with a Scorpio male is an unwise move. He will be jealous and possessive and will never allow a woman to control him. Let him take the lead because the Scorpio male is truly a fascinating person, you can never go wrong when he is planning the night! Do not nag on him for he has a hard enough time understanding his own emotions. Scorpio men make excellent protectors and you will always feel safe under his radiating, passionate and energetic power.
The Scorpio male is never indifferent to anything, he has strong opinions and thoughts. If you are ever dating a Scorpio man, you will see that he is very devoted and feels strongly about you. Part of his mystique is his potential for sudden infatuations and then suddenly losing interest, only to come back again at full force. He is not indecisive but he feels so intensely about every emotion that when he likes you, he likes you a lot. When he no longer likes you, he despises you. This coming and going and playing hard-to-get keeps many women interested in a dating relationship with him. Unlike men from any other sign, Scorpio is not easily swayed by revealing a little cleavage or talking seductively (of course this can help sway him, but he won't be putty in your hands like say, dating a Sagittarius man). Treat him like he is special, a one-of-a-kind person unlike anyone that you've ever met before. He craves this kind of pedestal treatment, this will make him putty in your hands!
Scorpio men are very emotional and sensitive, but this is hidden under a solid exterior. Ladies, if you are interested in dating a Scorpio man, do not be overly sentimental. He hates the gushy romance part of dating. You have to be sensitive and non-critical of his ways in the relationship because he is easily hurt. Also, never tell your Scorpio man that you are reading these online dating tips because he is the one who needs to have the upper hand, he is the one who is "in the know" of peoples motives! Let it be your little secret that as you are dating your Scorpio male that you are fully aware of his mysterious ways and understand his hidden agenda! Dating a Scorpio is a slow process, trust is built up over time because he never naturally trusts anyone. Do not expect to be treated special just yet. Once the dating relationship has gotten more intimate (not sexually but emotionally), then he will let some of his true feelings show.
Beware of the downfalls of dating a Scorpio male. Scorpio men do not like to compromise so you will have to. They like to be the leaders so for all the independent controlling women out there - you'll have to let him have the power in the dating relationship (he's a good leader, he knows what he's doing, everything he does is for a reason so you don't have to worry about pointless outings and stupid boring dates). If you every get into an argument or a fight, the Scorpio male has the ability to "sting" you. He will actually go out of his way to get revenge. So never cheat on him or cross him in any way, this includes lying. Never lie to a Scorpio man because he will never forgive you and he will never forget. Be careful not to play him while you're dating. (Side Note: I may like my own way at times, but I am willing to compromise. And I don’t really go for revenge, but most likely will be nasty right back. The rest of it is definitely true. Girls who are shady with me might as well forget it. Even if I manage to forgive, which doesn't happen often, it's fair to say I won't forget. And in the back of my mind, I will forever be bother by it.)
In order for dating compatibility, you have to follow his lead and give him his space. But beware that he won't give you much space or freedom. You belong to the Scorpio man but his sexy manliness makes you feel good under his protective, jealous arm. Dating a Scorpio takes patience and time and you have to able to deal with his strange mysterious ways, but this is part of the fun. The Scorpio male will always keep you on your toes. (Side Note: Jealousy is always tied to a Scorpio, but I’m only jealous if you’ve given me reason to be. Otherwise, I’m totally fine with giving a girl space and I won’t hound you with questions if you’ve earned my trust. And girls who purposely try to make me jealous will find they fail in that attempt. I won't become jealous, but I will lose all respect for you. Trying to hurt someone on purpose just seems so childish to me and that is a huge turnoff.)
The best relationship advice for dating a Scorpio male is get ready to go with the flow and have fun being seduced by him and watch out for that voracious sex drive. In the end, he will always treat you like a lady, not just his property. He wants you to remember him forever and be mesmerized by his seductive allure - a fun experience while it lasts! And that is why regardless of your compatibility with Scorpio, every woman should date a Scorpio man at one point in their lives. The most compatible dating matches for Scorpio men are Cancer, Pisces, Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo. With a little more effort and compromise, Scorpio males are also a compatible dating match with Aries, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius. Scorpio men have the least compatible match for dating with Gemini, Sagittarius and Libra.
If you want to read the dirty stuff in terms of what it takes to attract me, what are my erogenous zones and what sex with me is like, you can follow this link. Or you could just date me and find out. Oh yeah...you can also lookup your own astrology dating profile there too. Get to know yourself. The good. The bad. The ugly. And the beautiful parts that make up you. The combination of those parts is what makes you unique. There’s only one you in this world, but would you date you? That’s the question!
37 comments:
I for one have never dated a Scorpio man and after reading that I don't really believe that a Leo woman (me) would work well with a Scorpio man. It seems like there would be way too much drama over the balance of power in the relationship.
Obviously since the Libra's and Virgo's aren't working for me though, I may need to pick a different sign to try my luck with.
Coincidentally, I have thought about whether or not I would date myself. And I would. But I think the only way it would work is if I was friends with myself first. Then we would be blissfully happy :-)
I think I would probably click quite well with a Scorpio man - I don't think I've ever been out with one. That being said, I don't hold much truck with astrology myself.
All the same, this post raised some interesting questions for me. I've found myself wondering how I myself would put together a manual on how to date me. Perhaps, inspired by this post, I will even do this one day . . .
I emailed you my comment. But I had to type in your email b/c the link isn't working for some reason. Let me know if you don't get it.
Absolutely. Actually I'm abrasive enough that I say "hey, fucker, here's the low-down on me" and if they can't handle it, then i expect them to pass on dating me. Before I got married, I gave my ex hubby the scoop of what I needed, and he said he could do it. THen... all of a sudden, he rescinded it. He bit off more than he could chew, and he imploded on himself. le sigh.
so if you would date yourself, would you also have sex with yourself?
Jossie Posie...
Yeah, I don't do well with Leos. My sister is a Leo and growing up, we butted heads a lot. By the way, your name makes me giggle. :)
Paula...
Glad to hear this post made you think and may even inspire you to write your own take on what it would be like to date yourself.
HBee...
I did get your e-mail and replied just now.
ToughGirl101...
Personally, I respect brutal honesty. It may be blunt, but sometimes that is what a person needs to hear.
Mike...
I think I would date myself. I'm not one of those people who can't entertain themselves and enjoy their own company. And to answer your question as to whether or not I would have sex with myself...well duh, of course I have sex with myself. Doesn't everyone sometimes? I had a quickie with myself just this morning. I know TMI. Sorry, but you asked.
You mean Dr. McDreamy isn't real?! Way to break my heart.
Sounds like Scorpios are a challenge.. a lot of work but worth it in the end?? I'll admit.. I know nothing about astrology.. lol I think I'm pisces.. I dont even know what that means..
It's a very interesting topic.. gives one a lot to think about :D
Where did you find this?? I want to know! I want to know what it says about dating Gemini women, to see how close I think it is.
As for me, I would DEFINITELY date myself. I might actually think about putting together a "How to Date Me" brochure!
Mhea...
I would hope I'm not a lot of work to date, but I would also hope that I would be worth it.
Angela...
There is a "follow this link" at the end of my blog post. Click on it and it will take you to that website.
I didn't say a lot of work! I said a challenge! and most people like a challenge.. makes the result all the better :D
Sex With Scorpio:
Sex with Scorpio is a total emotional and physical experience with passion and intensity. They have amazing stamina and can last all night long, round after round. Scorpio is the zodiac sign that is the most likely to act out a sexual fantasy. Most people will talk about it but the Scorpio will do it, they will fully throw themselves into the role. Do not suggest a fantasy to a Scorpio unless you plan to do it! Most Scorpios are direct and forceful and they seem to be an expert at what they do. They continue to seduce you even as the act continues. A thrilling experience not for the faint of heart!
My sources tell me this is true. :-)
jen
My ex is a Scorpio. The chemistry/passion was out of control lol. But since I am a Virgo, we dont like to be out of control most of the time so this was usually kind of exciting!!! Then again, I found myself frustrated alot too....
Yeah Virgos and Scorpios just totally dont mix.....but when it was fun it was really fun, just turned ugly pretty fast haha...
The one thing that stands out from the scorpios i know is their sexuality. They are often suggestive and attractively irresistible. seems true for you david.
coincidentally, i have dated myself twice. The ex was a leo but less typical than me. Del is totally like myself. i guess this why things work out =)
Attractively irresistible?
Thanks, I'll take it!
My Mom feels the same way about me. :)
I like the idea of creating a brochure for someone on how to date you. Probably a good learning experience and shows you what aspects you really want to portray to those you want to date, and what aspects you'd like to work on or avoid.
Weird thing is that I just had this conversation with a friend last night. We were saying that everybody would have to create an advertisement for themselves and there would be a "dating catalog" sent out to all the singles. I also suggested that we secure some references from exs before we go on dates. That idea didn't go over too well.
If I can be bold, I'll take you up on the offer of dating you to 'find out' :)
Agree with mhea, all this time I thought the dedication of love and passion in The Notebook could be mine some day and now it is totally crushed by bringing me back to reality by Mr. David...
"his sexy manliness..."
Sexy manliness. That's you, eh? I've never dated a Scorpio man. But this post of yours made Scorpio men sound so yummy.
To answer your question, I wouldn't date myself. My hotness is too much for me to handle. ;)
I think the "How-To Date Me" brochure is more of an idea in theory, rather than something I would actually put together and hand a potential date. I think it's a good exercise to do because it helps you understand yourself better.
Although I wouldn't want to hand the brochure to a girl or have her hand her brochure to me. The reason being is because isn't the whole point of dating to discover someone new? I want to learn about her along the way, day by day. That's part of the fun. That's what the "courtship" is all about, right? If she just put it all out there from day 1, where's the mystery? Where's the challenge? What keeps me coming back for more?
Make me work for it. Yeah I said it - make me work for it.
This sort of coincides with why I'm not a fan of Googling a date to get "the scoop" on her before she fills me in on it herself. But that's for another day and another post.
Of course I’m all for a girl wearing a sign on her chest that alerts me to her craziness! I attract too many crazy chicks that I think there should be a law that they have to declare their crazy upfront.
there must be a reason you are dating so many crazy chicks, no?
David- make a list of what you want in a woman!!!!
Correction - I'm not dating any crazy girls now, but I did date a few in the past. I've learned my lesson, trust me. Crazy chicks don't change! They only get worse and act out their crazy on me! Needless to say, I'm scared of crazy chicks. In fact, I'm so cautious of them that I am leery of just about every woman that crosses my path, trying to determine if she has hidden crazy in her.
And you want me to write a list of what I look for in a woman? Ha-ha. Why is that? That would be an easy list to write though. I just may do it.
This is a very interesting idea for a post!
You seem like the type who loves reading and expanding his horizons, so I have also awarded you with the "Bookworm Award"! I have linked you from my blog, so check it out!
I read your whole profile and I agree you aren’t moody at all. They don’t say anything about you being extremely competitive, artistic, or romantic. You are all of those things. I had to laugh when I read how you hate mushy stuff! That profile is so you!!!
jen
I ALWAYS wonder what it would be like to date myself! I am so glad I'm not the only one.
I think the perfect person to date would be a woman, trapped in a man's body, and she would have to be gay...sounds weird, but just think, he'd be thoughtful, romantic, caring, and have a penis...my perfect guy.
Laura...
What’s the "Bookworm Award"? Can’t say I’m much of a bookworm, but I’ll accept the award regardless. Ha.
Jen...
I know! What’s up with that? Moody my ass. And none of that petname crap. I can’t deal with honey, baby, barfy bear.
Frankie...
Really? It’s good to know I’m not the only one with odd, deep thoughts.
Anonymous...
So if you wanted a woman who was trapped in a man’s body and she/he had a penis, I think he would have to be straight and not gay? Then again, what do I know? This scenario is too complicated for me to comprehend! Regardless, I like your deep thinking.
okay so it's a girl trapped in a man's body so she'd have to like girls, which would make her gay...right? i don't know, then would i be gay? anyway checked out that link, it's mostly true for Taurus too...kinda weird.
hmm.. i feel like a man trapped in a woman's body actually.. with extra stuff to flaunt that is. ohh i like females trapped in men bodies too ;)
I too am a Scorpio. Your birthday must be coming soon or maybe its already passed. Regardless, happy birthday.
Good post.
David - Your post intrigues me, and I debated whether or not to reply...
But I'm doing it because it got me thinking. Would I date myself? Yes. I say that without hesitation (and without intentional conceit, believe me) because I know from experience that I make a good partner and am relatively easy to please. But it's getting to that stage that is trouble for me. Case in point, I was in a long term (4.5 year) relationship that ended amicably, but since then, the dating world for me has been, well, non-existent. At first I thought it was just because I wasn't ready to date again, but considerable time has passed and it's still a no-go. So I questioned myself again -- do I willingly put myself into situations where I'm categorized as "best friend" and "little sister"? Do I "Ugly Betty-fy" myself in putting other people's needs before my own? Do my own signs (Libra and Virgo, right on the cusp) make it difficult for me to connect with people on a more intimate level? Do I seek what's not really there, as you mentioned in your post?
The answer to all of those are probably yes...I always think it's important to look inside, which is why I like your idea so much. But the thing is, since that relationship,I've learned a lot about myself and, consequently, what I want out of a relationship...But maybe for me it's not looking inside anymore, but seeking outside -- to find people with whom I can have that connection and not being afraid of opening myself up and giving it a try.
An intriguing post that's brought up many questions relative to my own life...Thanks for that.
Great post, I'm pretty sure I'd date myself. I'm easy-going and completely not jealous. That being said, I don't think I'd do well with a Scorpio.
I'm an Aries and just like the Leos we need our power! Also, I don't compromise well either, I call it "stubbornness", some call it "being a bitch"
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haha, the russian translation version of your site cracked me up. as it is a very rough and literate word-by-word equivalent, it made no sense whatsoever. but still was fun to try. :)
I just was thinking about this post again and I initially truly contemplated what it would be like to date me and/or rather if I have qualities that would entice me enough to date me.
I currently feel so damn picky and have been waiting to feel some sort of wow with someone . . but you made me wander if I would feel that wow with myself.
Realizing this has made me decide to
a) not write people off so quickly
and
b) be cognizant of what I am exuding and to not be so cautious. Maybe, even show interest once in awhile . . .
So thank you . .
(PS. I am waiting for your list!)
I love this post. I actually read it a few days ago, and didn't have time to comment. And I've been thinking about it ever since! I keep thinking "would I want to date me?" And then I wonder if my boyfriend would want to date himself. I believe in that horoscope stuff too-I'm just like my sign (a Libra). When it comes down to it, I think I would want to date me! Haha. I'm considerate, and I try to be romantic, and I tend to put others first (at the detriment of my own wellbeing...working on that one, but then, that might make me less date-able?!). Anyway...awesome post. So thought-provoking!
I would want to date you, Marissa.
Oops, did I say that outloud?
Oh well, nothing new. This you already knew as I've made my school boy crush on you sorta obvious. Now hurry up and become single. I don't have all day. :)
Am loving your blog so far! I had to comment on this one though as I'm a scorpio woman.
And I'm surprised that the article you linked to is pretty acurate. Never a dull moment with me in the house. *sigh*
I rather like being a scorpio though...we're pretty awesome people. haha
And to answer your question, hell yes I would date myself if I could! =)
Have met a lot of Scorpios lately, for some strange reason. Never dated one before but I remembered reading this entry a while ago and wanted to look it up again. This is interesting, very very interesting!!!!
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